Just read another pop article that stated that you know you love someone if you want and need the other person. Post modern attempts to validate their own selfishness isn’t fooling anyone, and i find it very limp.
True love isn’t about what you want or need. True love is a commitment to give what the other person needs, even if the other person changes. That’s exactly what Christ did for us – hence the reason why He is worthy of my adoration. When both parties are doing this, that’s when dating turns into marriage, and marriage turns into beautiful 50 year anniversaries. The world today defines love as what you want and what you need. It’s all about you. If so, then you are simply a slave to what you crave. You don’t love the PERSON, you only like the person’s attributes. To you, the person is but a donkey that carries the attributes. When the attributes change, the way you feel changes, and hence we find a new donkey. That’s a slavish mentality. I don’t want to be a slave, I want to be a conqueror. The Bible turns it on it’s head, “Love is not self-seeking, it always protects … it bears all things, it endures all things.” 1 Cor 13. The man capable of abiding to such commitment is richer than the richest man, stronger than the strongest athlete. And I dare to say that this type of love causes the “donkey” to become a beautiful stallion – far more precious than “attributes”. This is contrasted to the alternative – I’ll get a new donkey. And, in the process, the donkey you left is scarred, while you continue to be a slave to your cravings.
For those that think this love is impractical, perhaps you haven’t tasted the powerful experience of redemption. When something that could never be repaired by naturalistic means gets repaired (and both parties are changed from despair to humility to grace and love), few other experiences come close to that.
For some reason, in the dead of the night, I felt I had to pen this down. Going to sleep now.